在遇到陌生人時(shí)或在冷場(chǎng)的情況下，你是否會(huì)想到要說(shuō)些什么來(lái)發(fā)起大家的
交談？如果有這樣的想法，那你又是否知道哪些談話開(kāi)場(chǎng)白（conversation starter）

    是人們所喜歡的？

    今天就來(lái)教大家如何發(fā)起談話吧。雖然我們所說(shuō)的這些開(kāi)場(chǎng)白非常簡(jiǎn)單，但
這可不是在愚弄大家，因?yàn)樗鼈兇_實(shí)有效。有一點(diǎn)大家必須知道，使用這些開(kāi)場(chǎng)
白的目的是引起談話，我們所要做的只是打破沉默，而不是逗別人開(kāi)心或引起別
人的好感。因?yàn)槿绻�你想著要用第一句話就讓人眼前一��、�?duì)你刮目相看，那只
會(huì)令你自己感到緊張而怯于發(fā)起談話的。

    這次要跟大家分享的是那些適用于在任何情況下對(duì)任何人發(fā)起談話的開(kāi)場(chǎng)白。

    1.換個(gè)方式問(wèn)"How are you？" ："How are you doing right now？" "How's
your day been so far？" 同樣是問(wèn)" 你過(guò)得怎樣？" 但是如此問(wèn)的效果要好很
多，因?yàn)闆](méi)人想去回答甚至思考一下像"How are you？" 這樣一個(gè)過(guò)于陳腐的問(wèn)
題。

    2.人們總是樂(lè)意談?wù)撟罱�發(fā)生的新鮮事："What's happened for you today？

    " "How was your trip？" "How'd you sleep last night ？"

    3.借助情境，簡(jiǎn)單評(píng)論一下身邊事物："What do you think of that book ？

    " "Looks like a great drink. What is it ？" "I love this place because
it's got great energy."

    4.以贊美來(lái)開(kāi)頭："I like your posture. It makes you stand out nicely."
"Nice shirt. Where did you get it ？" "I love your style！"

    5.談?wù)勌鞖猓?quot;It's so hot today." "The great sun is burning this afternoon."
"It's freezing！ Do you know the temperature？" 這個(gè)方式經(jīng)常被提到，但
是美國(guó)漫畫(huà)家Kin Hubbard 說(shuō)，"Don't knock the weather. Nine-tenths of the
people couldn't start a conversation if it didn't change once in a while."
要用天氣這種通常情況下沒(méi)有太多變化的東西來(lái)發(fā)起談話并非一定容易，所以也
不可過(guò)分倚重于此。

    6.降低姿態(tài)："I don't know anyone around here so I thought I'd come
talk to you." "I'm a little nervous talking with strangers， but I just
had to come say hi." "I know no one here so I thought I'd introduce myself
to you."這類(lèi)我們可以稱(chēng)之為"vulnerable introduction" ，也就是在開(kāi)場(chǎng)白中
顯露出自己的惶恐憂(yōu)慮，這樣比較容易讓人愿意接近。

    7.坦率表明自己想要接近的原因："I'm out meeting new， interesting people
tonight. Mind if we chat for a minute ？" "You guys look like you're having
fun. That's so cool that I just had to come talk to you." "I had to come
talk to you because your shirt made me laugh."

    8.了解即時(shí)訊息，談?wù)劅衢T(mén)事件："I was just listening to radio on my
way here and can't believe what happened in Africa."如果你不是那種喜歡
啃報(bào)紙、聽(tīng)新聞的人，那就可以以詢(xún)問(wèn)對(duì)方有什么新鮮事的方式來(lái)發(fā)起談話。另
外，在這樣的對(duì)話中可以多用些幽默來(lái)緩解一下緊張嚴(yán)肅的氣氛。

    9.以過(guò)去的偶然交集來(lái)開(kāi)頭："I believe we saw each other at James' party."
"I think we ran into each other at the trade event last month." "Did we
meet last year at Church？"

    10. 閑聊假期："How's your Christmas preparations going？" "How'd the
New Year go for you ？" "Spring Break has been crazy. What's happened
to you at Spring Break so far ？" 問(wèn)問(wèn)對(duì)方為假期做了哪些準(zhǔn)備、假期里有
什么有趣的經(jīng)歷等等，這樣的話題每個(gè)人都有內(nèi)容可以談。