Friendly Relations with the People Around

　　1 You depend on all the people closely around to give you the warm feeling of belongingness (歸屬) that you must have to feel secure. But, in fact, the members of all the groups to which you belong also depend on you to give that feeling to them. A person who shows that he wants everything for himself is bound (一定的) to be a lonely wolf.

　　2 The need for companionship is closely related to the need for a sense of belongingness. How sad and lonely your life would be if you had no one to share your feelings and experiences. You may take it for granted that there always will be people around to talk to and to do things with you and for you. The important point, however, is that keeping emotionally healthy does not depend so much upon having people around you as upon your ability to establish relationships that are satisfying both to you and to them.

　　3 Suppose you are in a crowd watching a football game. You don't know them. When the game is over, you will all go your separate ways. But just for a while you had a feeling of companionship, of sharing the feelings of others who were cheering for the team you wanted to win.

　　4 An experience of this kind gives the clue (線索) to what companionship really is. It depends upon emotional ties of sympathy, understanding, trust, and affection. Companions become friends when these ties are formed.

　　5 When you are thrown in a new circle of acquaintances (熟人), you may not know with whom you will make friends, but you can be sure that you will be able to establish friendships if you show that you really like people.

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　　A Making friends with new acquaintances

　　B Close link between companionship and belongingness

　　C How to satisfy other people's needs

　　DAn example of a satisfying relationship

　　E Difficulties in establishing friendships

　　F What companionship really is

　　5. If you had no one to share your feelings, your life would be______________.

　　6. The warm feeling of belongingness may give you______________.

　　7. The ability to establish fine relations with others will keep you______________.

　　8. You will find it hard to make friends with people______________.

　　A without pity

　　B sad and lonely

　　C emotionally healthy

　　D without real love for them

　　E a sense of security

　　F a lonely wolf

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　　1. B　　2. D　　3. F　　4. A　　5. B　　6. E　　7. C　　8. D